Why do men stalk women when a relationship ends?

Sometimes women end up dating adult males as they are no longer drawn to them or get creeped out or whatever. What's this crap about ladies always having another one in the wings? Looks like a male fantasy to me, which makes it sound like women are impulsive at best, deceptive and calculating at worst.

The other result of the spectrum from the disappearing man who never contacts for a second time is the fantasy man who won't go away after the relationship over.

Much of the current stalker phenomenon is according to ignorance. Mirage men do not know that popular and skillful women may cultivate several future beaus even as they date their current boyfriend. In our book we refer to this as the sine curve of dating.

Mirage men are encouraged by music, movies and television to put way too much emotional stock in a simple dating relationship. They are shocked and wounded by the fact that as the present relationship ends these women may have another man waiting in the wings, at the threshold of another dating relationship. This simple truth needs to be communicated to boys as they enter adolescence.

Mirage men don't understand that the purpose of dating is to determine compatibility. Instead they pretend they've found their soul mate for life. They are more interested in the thought of you than the real you. Women need to understand this concept so they can nip a stalking relationship at the bud. Rushing into a romance with a virtual stranger can lead to possessive relationships with men who might be mentally ill or simply believe the media myth that persistence will win them a mate.

Ladies ought to be free to date a series of adult men. Guys have to be educated to expect it and not resent it. If either partner is not pleased with an informal dating relationship, they ought to be free to leave it at any time with no guilt.

These stalking guys need to understand that dating a lady isn't equal to ownership and possession. Most stalker behavior is usually determined by a male mentality of ownership, possession and territory, and fueled by hormones and wish.