Jesse James is The Perpetual Adolescent

As we talk about on page 179 of a best-selling book, the fantasy guy ought to undergo a thorough physical evaluation to rule out medical circumstances like diabetes and hyperthyroidism that may have an effect on behavior. Then we recommend of the fact that the mirage man should undergo a psychiatric evaluation to rule out conditions like biploar or anxiety disorders, sadness and other mood problems that may be treated.

Famous person motorcycle maven Jame is back in the reports this week. You might bring to mind that after three failed marriages, Jess married an American actress Bulloc. Only weeks after receiving an Award for Best Actress this last March, Sandra was blindsided with the surprising reports that Jess had been carrying on a torrid ten month affair with a tattoo model.

Jesse James, like many mirage men, wants to live his life in the perpetual Honeymoon stage of Tiger Woods Syndrome. Men like Jesse think something is terribly wrong when reality comes crashing down on their fantasyland of love in the Resigned Compliance stage of Tiger Woods Syndrome and they realize they have bonded with a stranger. They run away from their problems and find another person to recreate the illusion of love. Author Jane Velez-Mitchell refers to this repetitive cycle as "chasing the high".

We see this type of behavior in adolescent children who are obsessed about themselves. All they care about is how life is going to serve them. They indulge themselves in addictive activities. They pursue crushes and  are devastated when they don't lead to true love. Then the next day they pick themselves off the ground and become infatuated with someone else. It's all innocent fun in 9th grade, but when adults behave in the same immature way it has devastating consequences to their partners and children they leave in their wake.

Today we've millions of American guys like Jess who have never transitioned from the teenager stage to maturity. They may work on bikes, host television shows, hold political office or win golf tournaments, but they've no real purpose in life. They will "chase the high" but have no real joy in their lives until they find out their real selves and their presents they have to contribute to society.

Perhaps it seems inaccurate to suggest that all psychologists live pampered and sheltered lives. I would suggest that psychologists, just like any other profession, are a really diverse group of people from all kinds of backgrounds.