How to Accept it When a Relationship Ends

My spouse has been disloyal, and I can not end sending texts and emails calling him all kinds of terrible names and telling him over and again and again how disappointed, hurt I am. I think it's a great weakness and so extremely immature, and it takes place only during the daytime while he's at work or away on business.

One of the most confusing aspects of the unwanted end of a relationship is that when your previous partner has moved on, you end mattering much to him or her. Even though you might be parsing through every moment of each event that came about during the past two months, the person you're obsessing about is most likely not even considering you.

Email that ever so tempting medium of immediate gratification which often leads to lingering regret. How many times did you get up in the middle of a sleepless night with the absolute conviction that you must tell your estranged partner one essential thing right that minute? If only he knew this, either he'd feel enormous regret for his actions or perhaps, if you're lucky, you could make him feel a crumb of the hurt he's made you feel. He has his armor up and your attacks only make you look desperate, pathetic and maybe even unhinged and you know that. And because you never get the satisfaction you crave from having sent the message, you end up re-injuring yourself instead of making a dent in him.

It's like an addiction, a fix. You know it's not good for you in the long run but you can't resist because it relieves some built-up stress momentarily. At first, when your emotions are in a perpetual uproar, you may not be able to hold yourself back from trying to get the other person to connect with you, but as time goes on and you gain more control, you'll accept the fact that it is counterproductive and learn how to stop yourself. You will swallow the bitter truth that you will never get the acknowledgment of the magnitude of hurt done to you by the one who made it happen. You'll have to move on without it.

That's why, when I was in the midst of my own process, I came up with the following rule of thumb: don't press "send" while you're still in your pajamas! That means, don't send anything at all between the hours of midnight and 6 a.m., when all of our thinking is distorted anyhow, and hold off sending things between 6 a.m. and midnight until you've really thought it through.

While you can learn to send any file which you write with sweaty palms and a racing mind in "draft", you'll have turned the corner toward reducing the power your previous partner has over you. It's not so important to set the record straight, the person is just not so important in your life any more.

As I think, faithless males won't change their behavior just based on playing on their guilt emotions. We would succeed in making them feel guilty, sure, but that won't make them end seeing whoever else, or stop wanting to see them. And men will take a lot more notice of what you need to do than what you say. If you heap a load of insults on their head but you don't leave then they know they've got away with it, you'll complain like heck but they're not actually going to lose you and they might well do it again.

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