How to Cut Your Losses with Bad People

I like my job. I am excellent at it and it offers me with a sense of adding to the world and making a difference in it. It also offers me with the support to pursue the furthering of my education.

But a few of the people I work with are very negative, judgmental and harsh people. They see my efforts to better myself as geared towards making them look bad. They react to me accordingly.

Here are three steps to cut your losses with negative people.

Step 1: Make a listing of the most positive, uplifting, low maintenance, people you admire and respect and know or would like to know.

Step 2: Do everything you can to develop a relationship with these people. One way to do that is to figure out what you can do for them that would make their lives better from their point of view, for instance one thing I do is write thoughtful, positive, heartfelt and sincere book reviews if they have one and because of who they are this may cause them to want to return your generosity with their own. For me, because they are indeed so special, just the gift of their very precious time is more than enough payment.

Step 3: The more you build up relationships with these special persons, who make you want to be a greater person, the more repulsed you'll be by the takers, whiners, excuse makers, bullies and high maintenance that is certainly easy to upset, hard to please people to the point where any contact with them will feel like nails on a chalkboard. That could drive you to break your relationship with the negative people. Another reason you will want to sever your relationship with them is because of the negative part of your individuality which is kept alive by continuing a relationship. Permitting that negative part of you to continue is really a method of dishonoring the wonderful people you are now bringing in your life and standing in the way of your becoming the better person who they create you want to become.

I will be actually presently going through this course with a long-time friend. I have made some new friends, got a fresh job and generally outgrew this friend and I no more wish to hear her excuses and self-absorbed stories.