Would you change anything about your life if you could?

We all have regrets whether we want to confess to them or not. Someone saying they don’t have regrets, its pretty much saying they’re ideal and never make errors. How can you regret a decision you made if you intelligently calculated the dangers. If you go into a choice open minded, intelligently, with patience and intellect, you did all you can, why feel sorry. But the question is, everyone has made a choice that wasn’t well calculated and made intelligently, that’s when you have a regret. Decisions made on impulse are most of the time regrets later on.

When I give seminars in schools and companies, I usually ask if anyone has regrets in their life. If so, I inquire them to raise their hand. Would you raise your hand? If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be lonely. More than 7 out of 9 people look me in the eye, stick out their chest with pride, and shoot their hands into the sky for all to see. 79% of people enjoyed a whole life without any regrets. Either I am surrounded by the most mindful, compassionate communicators and problem-solvers in the world or what I am witnessing is how people are worried with their public image.

While I do listen to the Butthole Surfers on occasion, you might be amazed to know that they are not the definitive authority on the subject. I define regret as what we feel when we understand that our current situation might be better if we decided to act differently. It’s a backward looking, unpleasant feeling where you blame yourself and wish you could undo the past. Perhaps you felt regret when you shared the good news with co-workers that your heroin problem last year should have little effect on your pregnancy.

Here are a few attractive scientific discoveries about regret to meditate on:
1. The majority of regrets relating to inaction are less troublesome to us. When we get upset, these feelings are often less intense than regrets about action taken. There are often immediate repercussions for poorly chosen behavior. You get suckered by a gypsy scam while walking along Las Ramblas in Barcelona. Instead of resisting your email for three minutes, you whip out your iphone while in the bathroom and lo and behold, your slippery fingers deliver it to the toilet bowl.

2. To feel sorry, you have to recognize the consequences of what you did or didn’t do. You need to be introspective and patient to know if an action not taken was a poor choice. It takes a long time to find out that visiting Moscow as a single, 19-something male would have been a smart choice. The same goes for decisions about careers and voting for political candidates. We often don’t find out the benefits of the paths not taken until later. Have you felt screwed for not knowing that you could make a living by testing video games for Microsoft?

3. You seldom discover regret in youthful kids. 7-year olds make a comparison about what happened and what might have been. They can imagine that their present situation would be better if they made better options in the past. Younger children still relish a sweet, oblivious state of mind. But there is nothing our 3-5 year olds can do. Eventually, like the rest of us, they will ruminate, and toss and turn through sleepless nights. Bide your time and schadenfreude will be yours!

4. Apologize for inaction or paths not taken do not go away as easily. They linger and fester in our brains. While we actively cope with poorly chosen behavior, options foregone lead us to wonder incessantly. Regardless what unsatisfying car you buy, it can still be compared to even worse models that other people are driving. But what about the beautiful stranger that you had a deep, emotional connection to after 8 hours of breathtaking conversation that you failed to follow through on? It haunts you as you will never find out whether you made the right call.

5. Regret exists because it is useful. When we feel regret, when we feel guilty and embarrassed by what we do, we are motivated to undo any wrongful things we did and make better, more careful decisions in the future. Regret is unavoidable because there are opportunity costs for every choice made. When you select a path, you immediately forfeit other choices and their benefits.

People that attempt to minimize regret usually feel a sense of fretfulness and paralysis where they are more focused on not making mistakes and mistakes and less focused on taking calculated risks toward difficult, aspirational goals. To be succinct, without regrets, you are done evolving, You will be ineffective at coping with an uncertain, unpredictable world where mistakes are inevitable.

Confess that you have regrets and you are mostly saying that I am open-minded and eager to get calculated dangers with a wish to continually grow and learn.

I think many people tell they have no regrets as they want to be able to respond "no" to the question – Would you change anything about your life if you could? People believe saying "no" to this is synonymous with having no regrets. One can take lots of regrets in life but still be very glad with their life and not want to change everything in the past as the past has set up our present level of growth and eventually sets the tone for how we will approach the future. Will we approach future situations open-mindedly, ready to make errors?

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